a circus of mediocrity
placing shame where it belongs
Note: A massive warning before I start.
I am angry.
This is a very strongly worded post about the absolute fucking dystopic nightmare that is our country.
If you do not have the emotional or mental bandwidth to read this rant, do what’s right for you and click / scroll away.
If you feel the need to tell me I should “take the high road” or “be bigger than this” or some other similar “be nice” bullshit, ask yourself if you’d make the same comment to the thousands of white men who continuously post their asinine takes on SubStack and other social platforms.
You wouldn’t? You’d only say it to me?
Then please click / scroll away. Also, check yourself because your racism and misogyny are showing.
3. I am not writing this to change anyone’s mind or to get anyone to think / believe differently.
You believe 1+1 = 22? Fantastic.
You think the sky is green? Good for you. Not my problem.
This is my account where I’m free to write what I want - and I am doing this because writing has always been my way of processing. I need to fucking vent.
If you are also enraged by the state of our country, then I invite you to keep reading. Perhaps this post will be cathartic for you as well.
Okay, you’ve been warned.
For the past few weeks, I’ve been thinking a lot about Giselle Pelicot, the extraordinary French woman who has single-handedly brought greater awareness and a new perspective on our understanding and discussions around rape.
As a sexual assault survivor, I cannot emphasize enough just how strong, courageous, and deeply impactful her actions have been.
“It is not for us to have shame. It is for them,” she said.
These words have been bouncing around within me and seem particularly appropriate given what’s happening at this moment in time.
What a fucking start to the year.
Besides his usual deranged, incoherent ramblings about taking over Canada, Greenland, the Panama Canal, and Mexico, Trump recently said this (note his language, choice of words):
Like every sexual predator, he has no concept of boundaries, of the individual autonomy of others. He genuinely believes he is entitled to take whatever he wants, when he wants.
And of course, like every abuser, he constantly centers himself as he did with the current desperate emergency in California.
As usual, every sentence in this ridiculous post is incorrect and is yet again another instance of him talking out of his ass to showcase the infinite depth of his incompetence.
The fucking audacity to say this when people are dying in LA indicates the critical thinking skills of an 8 year old.
People are losing their homes, their schools, communities, pets, everything they own. They are absolutely terrified. It is a horrifying situation.
In the face of this crisis, this malignant buffoon gleefully chose to revel in his total lack of moral compass, knowledge, leadership, and empathy.
And what does his sidekick, the Nazi bozo, do? Push this disgusting, idiotic narrative, of course:
He blamed DEI for the deaths and destruction of a climate disaster.
That racist, ignorant fuck thinks non-whites having jobs are the reason for wildfire devastation.
I cannot even comprehend this level of lunacy.
Climate change is the sole reason behind what is happening in LA.
Scientists have been screaming about this for decades… and we’re in this fucking mess exactly because of people like him who have always put profits above all else.
Oh wait - the cesspool of Trump and Musk supporters think fucking machines control the weather.
Interesting how they believe those machines were behind the flooding in North Carolina but diversity is behind the LA wildfires.
God, the sheer absence of intellectual thought is fucking painful.
Oh and in case you need further evidence of his non-existent mental acuity, these were posted seven days apart.
And let’s not forget the other cause of shitfuckery this week from that robotic, insufferable imbecile, Mark Zuckerberg.
First, the deeply problematic release of AI bots across Meta platforms because Zuckerberg gets along better with machines than people.
Then, the shirking of all corporate accountability by removing fact checking from their platforms and throwing his own employees under the bus.
Followed by the changing of content policy to allow hate slurs and derogatory remarks to be made against gay people, trans people, ethnic groups, and women.
This is where we are.
This is the United States of America in the year 2025.
These assholes said all of the above - made all those choices, took all those actions - publicly with their full fucking chest.
And they continue to do it every single day.
How cringey, how abso-fucking-lutely EMBARRASSING that these infantile, pathetic cry babies - these disgusting sniveling fuckers whose hearts and brains are as empty as the vacant look in their eyes - are what we’ve come to.
Everything MAGA and these fucking sycophantic tech bros do is about disempowering others. They want to make US feel fear, helplessness, despair.
Because keeping us in that state increases their hold over us.
That perpetual uncertainty - a state of othering that deprives us of individual agency, making us believe we need to obey as an act of self-preservation - underlies every fascist, authoritarian government as well as genocide throughout history.
It is a characteristic of abuse.
Everything they do is about power: taking it, wielding it, weaponizing it, and preserving it.
It’s no coincidence that nearly everyone in this incoming administration has been accused of sexual assault or harassment and that they uniformly advocate for laws controlling women.
Their modus operandi is to gaslight others into silence and submission. They avoid accountability by transferring blame onto the victims of their harm and framing the narrative to place the other in the wrong.
Their audacity is a reflection of their shamelessness.
And like Madame Pelicot, the way we counter that is by flipping the script.
The burden is not for us to bear.
We need to place shame back where it belongs - onto the perpetrators themselves.
Emotionally stunted, mediocre, intellectually bereft, white men hold the most powerful, influential positions in our country.
This is not something new.
What is new is that they can no longer hide - unquestioned - behind their masks.
Like Pelicot’s husband and her other rapists, the truth about their fucked up predatory tactics and personal shortcomings are now exposed for everyone to see.
Their increasing desperation to hold on to power is because they realize their own irrelevance.
They know the world is moving on and they can no longer coast by and hide their blatant incompetence by relying on the protection of white male privilege.
So they’re kicking and screaming - threatening, harassing, controlling, throwing money around - and doing whatever they can to desperately fight their inevitable slide into obsolescence.
After all, women are more highly educated than men (77% of Asian women are college-educated), and Black women are the most educated demographic in this country.
You know that pisses them off - their fragile male egos are quivering in fear.
No wonder they blame diversity, immigrants, women, education; of course they create that drivel about anti-white oppression and attempt to devalue intellectuals, educators, scientists, academics, and those who actually know what they’re talking about.
They can no longer keep up with the rest of us, intellectually or emotionally, which is why they project their shortcomings onto others.
The truth about how they’ve stayed in power for this long is obvious.
It’s not because they’re smarter, or better leaders, or more qualified or competent (despite their ludicrous, pitiful attempts to spin the narrative that way).
It’s because they are white men and their entire history is about inflicting brutal violence and oppression on others to convey a false illusion of primitive superiority.
Relying on that has now placed them firmly on the lower end of humanity’s evolutionary scale. The natural flow of the world is doing its job of weeding them the fuck out of the genetic pool.
Why do you think they (and their supporters) are perversely obsessed with birth rates and legislating women’s bodies and forcing them to have children?
Because women have always rejected the fuck out of them.
And no matter how much money they accumulate or external measures of status they acquire, no matter how much they try to inflate their worth by branding themselves as some kind of messiah, women would still never choose them because nothing can make up for their inner emptiness as human beings.
So their only recourse is to cover up their shortcomings through control and taking what they want by force; otherwise, their barbaric fear of their insipid bloodline dying out will come true and they will lose any last remaining bit of perceived power.
These men are utterly mediocre, something they try to obfuscate because the only way they can excuse their ineptitude and dysfunction is by portraying themselves as an exception.
Like every entitled narcissist, Trump, Musk, and Zuckerberg want to claim a greatness they do not have and have not earned.
Oh he’s like that because he’s so far ahead of his time.
You don’t understand. He’s a genius - I’m sure there’s a very solid reason why he said what he did.
He’s saving us, protecting us. He has a vision for the future of humankind.
Yeah, you can miss me with that bullshit.
Zuckberg created a site at Harvard where students could rate and mock female undergrads as “hot or not”. Because like every incel, he blamed women for his absence of emotional development and social rejection. It was a textbook attempt at gaining some sense of personal power.
He has always been mediocre, an egotistic, internally dead copycat who cannot think for himself and has therefore never displayed actual leadership, vision, or innovation.
He acquired Instagram because it got popular; IG Stories to copy Snapchat; Reels to imitate TikTok; Threads to copy Twitter.
Despite his entire company being built on concepts of social and human connection, he is utterly devoid of those skills himself.
His megalomania is a perfect example of a weak, small individual thirsty for control over others as a way of compensating for his own personal lack.
Musk is of a similar vein - an entitled, unstable, walking red flag fueled by envy, arrogance, and anger. He’s a spoiled brat, a coward who doesn’t give a shit about who or what he destroys as long as he gets his way.
He is a fucking bloviating mess who has conned others into believing he’s interesting or important.
His ugly cybertruck monstrosities catch on fire and have been recalled six times for safety reasons. His Neurolink implants kill monkeys. He bought Twitter for $44B and degraded it to the point that it’s now worth just $9.4B (a 79% drop in value). Space X is destructive.
Pitiful, deeply insecure, and creepy as fuck, he bombastically overcompensates because he wants to be seen and taken seriously as “a man”.
Trump is a failure on every level, a doddering fool who can’t string a sentence together, makes everything about himself, and petulantly whines every chance he gets.
He is the ultimate snake oil salesman, a preening charlatan, a cheap reality show host who has faked his way through everything in life.
They’re all toddlers, blathering on and on with gibberish nonsense, throwing tantrums, treating others like shit, and seeking ego-stroking praise because they cannot accept the reality of how unspecial and unremarkable they actually are.
They’re the losers who desperately want to be popular.
How obvious. How transparent.
Again, how fucking embarrassing.
These are not great men.
They are not visionaries. They are not exceptional.
They’re boringly ordinary.
They’re so average that they are a trope, a cliche, a caricature of every boorish, tone deaf, socially awkward, emotionally disconnected, clueless, attention-seeking cretin.
Every single one of us can remember some dude in high school who reminds us of them.
All of them come from wealthy families and have used their blanket privilege and generational wealth to further profit and push their own selfish agendas.
They possess no particular intelligence or talent; and yet, they believe they are better than women, better than non-whites, better than anyone with less wealth than them.
They think the world owes them something simply because they exist.
Despite their insistent, grandiose claims about being for the “future of people”, they have no comprehension of humanity.
Everything they do is transactional and self-serving. Genuineness or authenticity are alien to them because they possess zero integrity, values, empathy, personal accountability, or character…the qualities that define what it means to be a decent fucking human being.
They’re the epitome of white male mediocrity …individuals who can only climb up by crushing and pushing others down because they lack the actual intelligence, qualifications, and ability to accomplish things on their own.
Zuckerberg and Musk were clearly picked on as kids…and are now, at their grown ass adult age, still pathetically seeking validation and attention from the ultimate bully, Trump, while becoming bullies themselves.
The unexamined cycle of trauma continues.
Yes, misinformation and disinformation are massive issues. But the paradigms people adopt are a reflection of who they are.
If you think the world is against you, you’ll find a narrative to support that. If you think others are the reason for your misery, you’ll surround yourself with evidence of it.
Those who support and perpetuate the lies told by Trump and his ilk have always been racists, misogynists, or bigots. The misinformation they choose to believe in is simply confirmation bias.
The prolific normalization of hateful rhetoric just emboldens them to now say out loud what they’ve long felt or thought.
This has always been the dirty ugly truth of this country. The very foundations of this nation were built on genocide, exploitation, and slavery - these ideological sentiments have never gone away.
The so-called male loneliness epidemic, the xenophobic casting of immigrants as monsters, the anti-DEI attacks, the anti-white whining…this is weaponized incompetence.
All are excuses to frame the abusers as victims, so they can be coddled, babied, soothed and let off the hook for not doing the work on themselves.
It’s the art of misdirection - a gaslighting tactic to keep us from seeing that they are the true predators.
Those who inflict harm justify their actions by saying they were “forced” to do it, that their victims somehow coerced them into action.
Abusive partners will say they struck you because “You made me so mad.” Rapists and their apologists say their victims were “asking for it”.
This mentality illustrates just how weak and entitled these men are.
Have their lands been stolen or ripped away from them through violence? Have they seen and experienced the annihilation of their own culture and language?
Have they spent a lifetime not seeing themselves represented in movies, media, stories, advertising, books? What about in history or other classes at school?
Have they not seen themselves represented in board rooms or leadership positions? Have they experienced massive pay gaps because of their gender or race or overcome countless hurdles just to get a seat at the table?
Have they been deliberately profiled, targeted, and incarcerated? Have they had their child, their loved one, raped or murdered by cops who then walked free?
Have they been put into internment camps because of their ethnicity (despite US citizenship) or experienced violent hate crimes because the President made a racist slur about their people during a global pandemic?
Have they been dehumanized as someone who eats cats and dogs or called a rapist or criminal by the President because of the color of their skin?
Have they been targeted and othered and discriminated against at airports and in planes, or followed around in stores because of their religion, their name, or the color of their skin?
Have they been shamed or judged because of their name, their accent, their physical appearance, the food they eat, or other aspects of their culture?
Do they have gross “passport bros” traveling to their country who feel entitled to fetishize and sexualize the women there because they view them as docile, subservient dolls that can be bought?
Is there legislation in place over their bodies that prevents them from accessing basic health care even when needed to save their life? Legislation that prevents them from getting care even when they are a victim of rape or incest?
Do people want to check what’s beneath their underwear when they walk into a bathroom because they’re obsessed with their genitalia?
Do people want to take away their right to get married? Criminalize whom they love? Call their life “abnormal” or a “mental illness”?
Have they ever feared for their life or been threatened with hate speech or violence because of their gender, sexuality, race, or religion?
Of course not.
These fuckers struggle to develop even the tiniest modicum of self-awareness needed to realize that they are the problem.
That maybe what we’re witnessing right now - the spiraling downfall of a nation after an entire history of white male leadership - proves unequivocally that diversity has never been the issue.
The lack of it is.
Immigrants, marginalized people, trans people, women - everyone these fuckers like to blame and control - have never led this country.
Imagine how different our situation would be if we listened to Indigenous people who have always been stewards of the land and tapped into their immense knowledge regarding our climate and planet.
Imagine how rich our country would be if we listened to the brilliance, intelligence, and profound depth of Black people not only with regards to equity, community, and humanity but all aspects of leadership.
Imagine how peaceful our world would be if we listened to the LGBTQ+ community and how it would improve the way we show up for our children, and deepen our understanding of love, identity, self-acceptance, and expression.
Imagine how strong our society would be if we listened to the disability community, how it would dramatically change our approach to healthcare and science and quality of life.
Imagine how civilized our nation would be if we listened to Asians and those from more collectivist cultures, how it would change our understanding of empathy, of consideration, and non-violent conflict resolution.
Imagine if we were a matriarchy, not a patriarchy.
What is happening right now - this shitshow of a world we currently occupy - demonstrates exactly who and what the fucking problem is.
It is a representation of the utter failure, the abject foolishness of a group of people who remain delusionally convinced of their superiority.
White supremacist patriarchy fuels an oppressive capitalist system designed to create a classist hierarchy by exploiting and disempowering others through wealth inequality.
That is what has led us to this moment.
The primitive ideology of white masculinity and its manic, religious fervor in holding on to power is responsible for the poisonous harm seeping through every aspect of our society.
It’s no surprise that those who can’t handle that truth are the very ones who are also too much of a chicken shit to face their own selves.
The result is a continuing cycle of socially inept, insecure, immature cowards who are unable to emotionally regulate themselves, running around and projecting their unhealed issues onto the collective.
This refusal to address individual change prevents collective change from happening. That saying about men doing literally anything in the world than go to therapy exists for a reason.
We all need to get on board this train of shaming the fuck out of these losers.
Women have the power to deny and reject and choose - we’ve always had it. We’re the ones who give birth, the ones who selectively determine the future of humanity.
These dimwits try to control us because they’re scared of us and terrified of rejection.
I also know good men, people I love and respect and cherish.
Men who have done the hard, painful work to dismantle narratives of toxic masculinity and address their emotional wounds.
Men who have courageously broken the cycle of generational trauma.
Men who understand that sensitivity, love, care, and vulnerability do not make you less of a man, but instead make you a greater human being.
We need you to call shit out, to be a part of rejecting and breaking the patriarchy that also harmed you.
Trump, Musk, Zuckerberg and those huffing and puffing like ridiculous Neanderthals are fucking dinosaurs, convinced they’re stars when they’re nothing more than outdated clowns.
Put shame back where it belongs.
Thank you for this. You’ve captured everything I feel🙏🏼